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Worried About Winter Flying?


If you are worried about delays, that makes a lot of sense. When the snow starts falling, its starts raining delays and cancellations. Runways have to be plowed. That means no takeoff or landings for a while. Then when the runway is ready, planes have to be deiced. From a pilot's point of view, the best thing to do is find a lounge chair in the crew area and get ready for a long day hanging around to see if you are going to be needed.


If you are worried about safety, that doesn't make a lot of sense. There is a good article on winter flight operations by Patrick at this link.


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The CNN Video


CNN's story on SOAR is at this link. When a person does their first post-SOAR flight, I don't recommend they do it on a turboprop. But that is what CNN set up, which mean Laura had to deal with a lot of turbulence plus the unfamiliar sounds turboprops make. I'm sure she will do much better on her vacation flight that is on a jet.


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Fly Honda


A Honda Jet flew its first test flight last week from the Honda Aircraft Company facility at Piedmont Triad International Airport in Greensboro, North Carolina. Honda claims it has one hundred orders for this plane, its first business jet.


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An Email About The Strengthening Exercise


I wanted to tell you that I believe I have at last felt the strengthening exercise. Now I see I had not done the exercise as it is supposed to be done.


It happened this way: two colleagues at work had a baby on December 2nd. We were all very happy for them, but I would not visit them until last Sunday. I hadn't realized that this was the first time I could hold a newborn in my arms. I do have cousins with children, but I wasn't there when they were born. So now I truly understand why you emphasize in the exercise this feeling of holding a newborn.


It's indeed a very special and truly beautiful experience. I thought the baby would reject me holding him, or would shake a little bit since I'm not family. Instead, I felt a newborn really trusts fully. He didn't move, but was so quiet. Just smiled from time to time and it was such a peaceful experience. I put it back to sleep and it really, really is magical.


I used the image of the newborn baby because it has such power. And today I really felt how the strengthening exercise really works. During the exercise I feel really how stress hormones start to be consumed. I believe it will help me in general.


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I Was Even Convinced That You Had Most Likely Written The "Success Story" Testimonials Yourself



Dear Captain Tom,


I write to thank you for your outstanding program. I have been a terrified flyer ever since I became pregnant with my eldest son (now 7 years). I cannot describe how frustrating and limiting my fear has been. I have always been a traveller in spirit, someone who loves new experiences, places and people. I have tried on many occasions in the past to overcome my aeroanxiety - medication, meditation, alcohol - but to no avail. I have cancelled several trips over the past years, costing in both the financial sense and in self-esteem. I admit that I was sceptical about your program. I was even convinced that you had most likely written the 'success story' testimonials yourself! Clearly, I was wrong, as here I sit writing one.



It is with pride that I now report that... I just flew from Melbourne, Australia to London, England... and back!! This comprised of 6 flights in total. I had a wonderful time - unusual, as in the past when I have made even very short trips, I have spent the entire holiday fearing the return flight. This wasn't just a holiday, but a pilgrimage of familial connection and self discovery. As a 1st generation Australian, it was amazing to discover my English heritage and family. I truly believe this would not have been possible without SOAR.


I had a fair amount of anticipatory anxiety. I was particularly concerned that the Strengthening Exercises would not work, as I am not particularly "good" at these visualising practices. I used the take along MP4 and calmed myself at the airport. I arrived early and was given permission to meet the pilot. I'm really glad that you included the little pep talk about the importance of meeting the pilot in the take along video. I almost chickened out, as I was worried they'd think I was crazy! The pilot and co-pilot were fabulous. They were happy to show me everything and answer my questions. Actually, I found all of the pilots and co-pilots that i met along the way to be this way, and it certainly helped to make me feel better. On the first leg of my long-haul (Sydney to Singapore), the British Airways pilot even came back to economy to see if I was ok! The crew were equally as helpful, and at any times of turbulence would come and check on me. What was most impressive was that at the changeover to a new crew (for the second leg of the long-haul), the new pilot and crew must have been told about me and continued to keep an eye out. Talk about service!


I had a few moments of mild-moderate anxiety on the first flight, which was only a one hour from Melbourne to Sydney. I was able to draw on my knowledge of the mechanics of the plane, and (mostly) the psychology of fear to rationalise with myself. Being "ok" built my confidence in my ability to manage any arising fear, and I seemed to get better and better at it. On the return flights, I had very little anticipatory anxiety and only mild moments during the flights. I felt comfortable and did not need to meet the pilots. I trust them now! When the entertainment system broke down shortly after take off, I did not panic. In the past, I would have taken this to be a certain sign of death. This time, I was able to rationally distinguish the cabin from the engineering of the plane. Meeting the pilots on the initial flights, and talking to them about the mechanical upkeep, helped a lot here. The flights were all fairly uneventful. There were, of course, normal episodes of turbulence, which did not worry me because I now have an understanding of what causes it, and the effect (none) on the plane. Best news of all and a sure sign of success...I slept for 4 hours on the way back!!! A first. Even Xanax and alcohol could not enduce sleep in the past.


Thank-you again for your dedication to curing aeroanxiety. You have allowed me, and the thousands of others that you have helped (I believe you now!), a freedom of life that would not have been possible without SOAR. I have a new job starting in January, which will include regular traveling, so my fear management could not have come at a better time. I am also busy planning my next holiday! Can't wait!



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SOAR Will Work For You Too


Even if you are doubtful, SOAR nevertheless works. This is because we, with the help of brain scan research that showed us how the mind works, broke the code on flight anxiety, claustrophobia, and panic.


SOAR was established in 1982 because no programs existed that could help people with moderate to severe difficulties. Even today, no other program offers help that is effective except for mild difficulties. No matter how difficult flying is for you, we can help.


 



  • Call me at 877 332-7359 between 10 AM and 6 PM Eastern time or

  • Set up a time online at http://soar.genbook.com

  • No Charge. No Obligation. Just get the information you want.


Or Enroll Right Now And Get This Over With


You will feel better as soon as you make the decision.



Full Length Course


 



  • The full length SOAR Video Course on 11 DVDs provides the maximum help possible.

  • More info.



Accelerated Courses


Flying tomorrow or the day after? Be ready to fly in 90 minutes with Rapid Relief.



Flying in three to ten days? Get comprehensive help with SOAR Complete Relief.


 



  • Accelerated courses give you the most help possible in the time you have available.

  • A twenty-minute private session and unlimited group counseling sessions are included.

  • What you pay is 100% transferable to the SOAR Video Course 11 DVDs.


Everything to you need is just a click away. Start viewing on your computer two minutes from now.
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Unsure Which To Choose


If you are unsure which is best for you, please call me at 877 332-7359 so we can talk it over. You will feel better as soon as you decide to act. Or set up an appointment for us to talk by clicking this link.



We are always here to help. Every course includes at least one counseling session. As you go through the program, call or email whenever you have a question or a concern.

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Patrick's Column This Week


Patrick takes on the TSA for "investigating" a pilot who pointed out flaws in security. How political is that? See the column at this link.


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Discuss Or Schedule An Individual Session -- Call 877 332-7359



Call between 11 AM and 6 PM Eastern Time (same time zone as New York)



You'll reach me easily. The toll-free number rings my cell phone.


 



  • find out how I can help you with flying

  • discuss the possibility of a counseling session

  • set up a time that fits your schedule


Outside the U.S. and Canada call 203 258-4803

 



  • a twenty-minute session is $60.00 if not enrolled in a course.

  • one twenty-minute session is free if enrolled in any course.

  • additional twenty-minute sessions are $60.00.

  • two one-hour sessions are included in the SOAR Guaranteed Program


Schedule An Individual Session Online


 


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View Article  FAA INSPECTIONS










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There's Still Time To Give Someone The Whole World.


Arrives before Christmas via download or FEDEX


 



  • The SOAR program is not about hope. 

  • SOAR produces results. 

  • Open up the whole world to someone who finds it difficult or impossible to fly.


Consider giving the "Take Me Along" download. This is set of videos that can be put on a laptop, iPod, iPhone, or iPad to let me coach them through the flight. Order the download ($59.95) at this link. Just make a not of the user name and password you enter, and include that info when you present the gift.


Another possibility is the Complete Relief Course ($299.95) at this link which includes "Take Me Along" FREE! Choose online viewing, download, or DVDs.


To set up any special arrangements, just call us at 800 332-7359.


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Outsourcing Concern Continues


The Transportation Department's inspector general has warned that the FAA is not properly inspecting overseas maintenance stations. The report says the FAA is behind schedule on 207 inspections, some eight years overdue.


Story at this link. A ConsumerReports article on the outsourcing problem is at this link.


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Life-Long Dream


Just a short note to let you know that I was able to fulfill a life-long dream of visiting the UK because of your course. I should probably let you know that I first took your course a few years ago, so yes, the lessons have longevity! Not only was I able to get through many legs of the trip (like 5!), but I have gotten to the point where I can sleep through most of it! My traveling companion was ready to shoot me for being able to do this!


Thanks again for an amazing program and for being instrumental in making my dream come true!


Gratefully


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Israel and The Holy Land


Captain Tom!  Just returned from a 'never imagined I could do it' trip to Israel, and The Holy Land.  Thanks be to God and The Soar Program!




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SOAR Will Work For You Too


Even if you are doubtful, SOAR nevertheless works. This is because we, with the help of brain scan research that showed us how the mind works, broke the code on flight anxiety, claustrophobia, and panic.


SOAR was established in 1982 because no programs existed that could help people with moderate to severe difficulties. Even today, no other program offers help that is effective except for mild difficulties. No matter how difficult flying is for you, we can help.


 



  • Call me at 877 332-7359 between 10 AM and 6 PM Eastern time or

  • Set up a time online at http://soar.genbook.com

  • No Charge. No Obligation. Just get the information you want.


Or Enroll Right Now And Get This Over With


You will feel better as soon as you make the decision.


Full Length Course



  • The full length SOAR Video Course on 11 DVDs provides the maximum help possible.

  • More info.


Accelerated Courses


Flying tomorrow or the day after? Be ready to fly in 90 minutes with Rapid Relief.


Flying in three to ten days? Get comprehensive help with SOAR Complete Relief.


 



  • Accelerated courses give you the most help possible in the time you have available.

  • A twenty-minute private session and unlimited group counseling sessions are included.

  • What you pay is 100% transferable to the SOAR Video Course 11 DVDs.


Everything to you need is just a click away. Start viewing on your computer two minutes from now.




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Unsure Which To Choose

If you are unsure which is best for you, please call me at 877 332-7359 so we can talk it over. You will feel better as soon as you decide to act. Or set up an appointment for us to talk by clicking this link.



We are always here to help. Every course includes at least one counseling session. As you go through the program, call or email whenever you have a question or a concern.

==========


Discuss Or Schedule An Individual Session -- Call 877 332-7359



Call between 11 AM and 6 PM Eastern Time (same time zone as New York)



You'll reach me easily. The toll-free number rings my cell phone.


 



  • find out how I can help you with flying

  • discuss the possibility of a counseling session

  • set up a time that fits your schedule


Outside the U.S. and Canada call 203 258-4803

 



  • a twenty-minute session is $60.00 if not enrolled in a course.

  • one twenty-minute session is free if enrolled in any course.

  • additional twenty-minute sessions are $60.00.

  • two one-hour sessions are included in the SOAR Guaranteed Program


Schedule An Individual Session Online


 


Note: Times Listed Are Eastern Time (same as New York)















View Article  HOLIDAY STRESS










Chat Wednesday 9 PM - 11 PM Eastern Time

 




Free Group Phone Counseling With Capt Tom Wednesday 10 PM - 11 PM Eastern Time




PLEASE NOTE NEW GROUP PHONE NUMBER 


  • dial (805) 309-2350



  • when asked, enter the conference ID 9352101 followed by the # sign





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Need A Present For Someone Anxious About Flying?



Consider giving them "Take Me Along", the set of videos that can be put on a laptop, iPod, iPhone, or iPad to let me coach them through the flight. Order it ($64.95) is at this link.



Another possibility is the Complete Relief Course ($299.95) at this link which includes "Take Me Along" free.



If you would like to set up any special arrangements, just call us at 800 332-7359.



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Holiday Stress



Understanding how the brain works can help with holiday anxiety. Each thing you imagine going wrong on a flight is a source of stress hormones when flying. Similarly, each thing  you have to get done during the holidays is a source of stress hormones.


An item can cause continued stress hormones until there is a commitment to take action, or a determination has been made that no action is needed.



Commitment to take action can be used to deal with holiday stress. Make a list of everything that needs to be done. Then, establish a date on which each will be done. By committing to that date for that item, a signal is sent to the amygdala to stop release stress hormones about that item.


How well this works depends upon how solid your commitment is to doing the item on that day. Each commitment that is carved in stone will end anxiety about that item.


How does this work with flying? See this link.


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Recent Posts On The Message Board


These posts are just from this week. If you need inspiration to get going, here it is!


Posted at this link.



I just wanted to post an encouragement to all you fearful flyers out there. I have been terrified of flying in the past...let me paint a picture for you: Anticipatory anxiety that starts the minute I know I have to fly [months ahead] as the weeks near I get more nervous, googling plane crashes and obsessing, letting my imaginary story take me to images of my funeral and pictures of screaming plane passengers as we crash to our demise! The days before a trip I my heart rate is about 120+ all day, sweaty palms, stomach aches and palpitations. I can't concentrate. The point of the trip is lost. Leading to the airport I'm in a daze. Paralyzed. Seeing the plane at the terminal I want to run away...I can't bear the sight of it let alone boarding with all my fated passengers into "a coffin of doom" as I would say. It was TERRIBLE the whole flight just crying and wanting to get drunk and frantically reaching out to other passengers and flight crew....when the darn thing finally lands I am so overwhelmed with joy and humiliation I don't know what to say. I am then exhausted for the next 2 days due to the insane amounts of adrenaline used up to make the flight....and the cycle repeats for the trip home....



Here's the GREAT NEWS. I flew to Europe and back and actually ENJOYED myself! With the help of Tom Bunn as well as personal weekly counseling [working out deeper issues that go back to childhood which contribute to my anxiety] I did it. I was still scared, but nothing like I wrote above. I feel so empowered...If I can fly to Europe and back I can travel anywhere! I feel so free! Also, I think long haul flights are easier to endure. There is food service, movies, people are chatting...it feels more like a restaurant in the sky than an actual plane trip. I can't describe to you guys how I did it exactly...but you must know if you think you are more scared than me, and that you are somehow "special" in this sense, you are NOT. You can fly and you WILL be free from your anxiety if you just choose to let it go and work on the issue! Happy skies to you all.


Posted at this link.


After YEARS of panic attacks when I even THOUGHT I'd have to fly . . . after YEARS of cancelling trips with friends at the last minute because I simply could not fly . . . I DID IT!!!  I flew from Boston to Miami on Monday, December 6th.  I did have to use the 5-4-3-2-1 (just one round, though!) in the airport at check-in, but after that, I was absolutely fine.  Takeoff didn't freak me out in the least; none of the noises bothered me . . . I actually enjoyed the flight.  On December 9th, I flew back from Miami to Boston.  The only thing that bugged me was being in the clouds - they were a little bit gray, and it seemed like we were in there for a really long time - just engulfed in white mass.  I didn't panic, though.  I took out my glossy magazines and crossword puzzles, closed the window, and I was fine.  No rapid heartbeat, no "outside of myself" experience, nothing at all.  There was even some turbulence, and though I didn't LOVE it, it didn't really bother me, either.  It was just like hitting bumps in the road when I drive!  I was actually smiling when I realized I was not, nor was I going to, panic.


I can't thank Captain Tom enough for creating this program.  I know a lot of people who don't like flying, but I didn't know anyone with the crippling fear and panic that I had (HAD! not HAVE!).  I thought nothing would ever work for me, but this program did.  It really did.  A friend who knows me well, and has flown with me, just asked me to go to Brazil in March - he is ecstatic that I am now so free - I can go anywhere!  I did meet someone in Miami who told me she refuses to fly, and I wrote down the website for her.  I really believe if this worked for me, it will work for anyone.


Thank you, Captain Tom.  Really.  I don't know what caused you to want to help so many people, but you are truly amazing.  Thank you for giving me the freedom to go wherever in the world my wallet will allow 


With MUCH gratitude,


ex-fearful-flyer


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SOAR Will Work For You Too


Even if you are doubtful, SOAR nevertheless works. This is because we, with the help of brain scan research that showed us how the mind works, broke the code on flight anxiety, claustrophobia, and panic.



SOAR was established in 1982 because no programs existed that could help people with moderate to severe difficulties. Even today, no other program offers help that is effective except for mild difficulties. No matter how difficult flying is for you, we can help.



  • Call me at 877 332-7359 between 10 AM and 6 PM Eastern time or

  • Set up a time online at http://soar.genbook.com

  • No Charge. No Obligation. Just get the information you want.


Or Enroll Right Now And Get This Over With


You will feel better as soon as you make the decision.





  • The full length SOAR Video Course on 11 DVDs provides the maximum help possible.

  • More info.



Accelerated Courses

Flying tomorrow or the day after? Be ready to fly in 90 minutes with Rapid Relief.

Flying in three to ten days? Get comprehensive help with SOAR Complete Relief.



  • Accelerated courses give you the most help possible in the time you have available.

  • A twenty-minute private session and unlimited group counseling sessions are included.

  • What you pay is 100% transferable to the SOAR Video Course 11 DVDs.


Everything to you need is just a click away. Start viewing on your computer two minutes from now.




==========




Unsure Which To Choose

If you are unsure which is best for you, please call me at 877 332-7359 so we can talk it over. You will feel better as soon as you decide to act. Or set up an appointment for us to talk by clicking this link.



We are always here to help. Every course includes at least one counseling session. As you go through the program, call or email whenever you have a question or a concern.


========== 

 


Discuss Or Schedule An Individual Session -- Call 877 332-7359




Call between 11 AM and 6 PM Eastern Time (same time zone as New York)




You'll reach me easily. The toll-free number rings my cell phone.


  • find out how I can help you with flying

  • discuss the possibility of a counseling session

  • set up a time that fits your schedule


Outside the U.S. and Canada call 203 258-4803


  • a twenty-minute session is $60.00 if not enrolled in a course.

  • one twenty-minute session is free if enrolled in any course.

  • additional twenty-minute sessions are $60.00.

  • two one-hour sessions are included in the SOAR Guaranteed Program


Schedule An Individual Session Online




Note: Times Listed Are Eastern Time (same as New York)






 


 




 





 



 









View Article  DEVELOPMENTAL TRAUMA










Chat Wednesday 9 PM - 11 PM Eastern Time

 




Free Group Phone Counseling With Capt Tom Wednesday 10 PM - 11 PM Eastern Time




PLEASE NOTE NEW GROUP PHONE NUMBER 


  • dial (805) 309-2350



  • when asked, enter the conference ID 9352101 followed by the # sign





========== 


Need A Present For Someone Anxious About Flying?


Consider giving them "Take Me Along", the set of videos that can be put on a laptop, iPod, iPhone, or iPad to let me coach them through the flight. Order it ($64.95) is at this link.


Another possibility is the Complete Relief Course ($299.95) at this link which includes "Take Me Along" free. 


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Developmental Trauma 


Recently, the group of psychotherapists I study with has been reading and discussing Awakening The Dreamer by psychologist Philip Bromberg. At the end of the book he gets across his views about early trauma.


A person who has been exposed to life-threatening trauma deserves and gets our attention as therapists. But trauma that does not involve gross invasion of mind and body, though undramatic, equally deserves attention. He says developmental trauma results in a child when "living day in and day out in a family that systematically disavows the existence of the child's subjective experience and discredits the validity of her emotional states."


He says our job as therapists is "to help rebuild faith in self-other experience regardless of how it came to be lost or compromised."

 

When an adult has difficulty regulating feelings, it is my view that no one was available to share their inner experience during the formative period which according to researcher Allan Schore, ends at around 24 months of age. It is before then that the die is case. But it is often the case that the person believes they had a great childhood. None of us, of course, remembers what our life was like at that time. But if there is an anxiety problem now, there had to have been a connection problem - at least a temporary one - then. 


When working with a client on fear of flying, to train the amygdala to not react to flying, we link each definable moment of the flight experience to a moment of emotional safety, a moment in which the gap of separation between individuals is bridged by empathic attunement. In an unfortunate number of cases, the client can not recall even one moment in their entire life when they had such an experience.


Fortunately, we can turn elsewhere, to "man's - and woman's - best friend". When people have let us down too many times to trust, a pet can serve well to connect the amygdala with an emotionally secure state. We then connect flying to that emotionally secure state.


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A Sequence Of Posts On  The Message Board

 

"New To The SOAR Family"



Hello i'm new to the SOAR family and just got the complete course . . . .  I dont fly frequently but if it necessary i do, but the anticipatory anxiety starts as soon as i hear about a trip. . . .   I have to plan a trip to Karachi in mid November . . . .  I always tried to avoid trips but my fear is not to the extent that ill not go on a plane if i have to but all my trips were definitely uncomfortable and especially on take offs. . . . 


 


. . . im sure your course will definitely take me somewhere, Im a singer/song writer and i know that ill have to fly frequently so far i had canceled a lot of good opportunities just because of this fear.




(Posted at this link.)


"Being In Control"

 

As a nervous flier there is this strange thing that i like to do, i mean we often like to hide or run away from things that we are afraid of but once on a plane i like to see, hear and feel every type of movement, strange isn't it ? if for sometime i get into a conversation with someone i like to end it soon so i can actively concentrate on my flight, on take offs (which are the most scary for me) i see people reading, talking etc but its really hard for me to do so i need to be actively concentrating on the takeoff. why is that ?




(Posted at this link.) 

 

"Flying In Few Hours"


Hello all, i'll be making a 1 hour 45 min domestic trip in few hours in Pakistan from Islamabad to Karachi. My anxiety is probably 1.5 on a scale of 1 to 10 right now, thanks to the Captains and my fellow Soar member this is all because of you guys. i did my strengthening exercises a couple of times also i went through all the articles on the SOAR word press. I feel sort of strange as normally i would be a total wreck usually at this point before the flight, but i'm taking things positively. To some extent with the help of this course i have managed to convert my "what if" thoughts to "so what". I'm committed and confident. I might meet the Captain or might not but none the less i know that the people flying my plane are confident and very experienced so i have to trust them.


 


Before taking the SOAR course i never though of my destination and the things ill do when i reach, i only concentrated on the flight and that's it, but things are different this time and i'm actually looking forward to my trip with family. I have, to some extent managed to take "my right stuff" to the next level. 


(Complete post is at this link.) 



"I Don't Have Enough Words To Thank You."

 

Ok so from where should i start? well i have been posting on this forum for a while now and have learned a lot. i took my first post SOAR flight a week back and let me tell you guys the course WORKED 100%. i did not have any doubts that Captain Tom is a magician and i was certain that through his courses he is casting a spell on us LOL.


 


See this link to read the report.


 

A SOAR Graduate's Congratulations


Boy, I love to read a flight report like this. CONGRATULATIONS. I'm almost 7 years post-SOAR and I still can't believe what a miracle it has been. 
You may find that sleeping gets easier. I've flown 28 times or so since SOAR, and at first I still had a little trouble sleeping the night before, but for awhile now I've slept perfectly fine, and even awakened normally instead of, OH MY GAWD, I HAVE TO FLY TODAY! All the little anxieties that kind lingered for awhile seem to be gone now.
Again, big congrats! Don't you feel like you got a chunk of your life back??


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SOAR Will Work For You Too


Even if you are doubtful, SOAR nevertheless works. This is because we, with the help of brain scan research that showed us how the mind works, broke the code on flight anxiety, claustrophobia, and panic.




SOAR was established in 1982 because no programs existed that could help people with moderate to severe difficulties. Even today, no other program offers help that is effective except for mild difficulties. No matter how difficult flying is for you, we can help.


  • Call me at 877 332-7359 between 10 AM and 6 PM Eastern time or

  • Set up a time online at http://soar.genbook.com

  • No Charge. No Obligation. Just get the information you want.


Or Enroll Right Now And Get This Over With


You will feel better as soon as you make the decision.





  • The full length SOAR Video Course on 11 DVDs provides the maximum help possible.

  • More info.



Accelerated Courses

Flying tomorrow or the day after? Be ready to fly in 90 minutes with Rapid Relief.

Flying in three to ten days? Get comprehensive help with SOAR Complete Relief.



  • Accelerated courses give you the most help possible in the time you have available.

  • A twenty-minute private session and unlimited group counseling sessions are included.

  • What you pay is 100% transferable to the SOAR Video Course 11 DVDs.


Everything to you need is just a click away. Start viewing on your computer two minutes from now.




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Crossing The Equator At 3 AM 

 

Flying across the equator in the middle of a moonless night. I had expected the radar to show up any thunderstorms that might be there. But it didn't. Radar shows up moisture, and when a storm that built up during the day loses most of its moisture, it may not show up on radar. Though the storm isn't potent when its moisture is gone, flying through the tops of a storm that is past its prime can still get your attention. Patrick tells about a similar encounter in his column at this link.


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Unsure Which To Choose


If you are unsure which is best for you, please call me at 877 332-7359 so we can talk it over. You will feel better as soon as you decide to act. Or set up an appointment for us to talk by clicking this link.



We are always here to help. Every course includes at least one counseling session. As you go through the program, call or email whenever you have a question or a concern.


========== 

 


Discuss Or Schedule An Individual Session -- Call 877 332-7359




Call between 11 AM and 6 PM Eastern Time (same time zone as New York)




You'll reach me easily. The toll-free number rings my cell phone.


  • find out how I can help you with flying

  • discuss the possibility of a counseling session

  • set up a time that fits your schedule


Outside the U.S. and Canada call 203 258-4803


  • a twenty-minute session is $60.00 if not enrolled in a course.

  • one twenty-minute session is free if enrolled in any course.

  • additional twenty-minute sessions are $60.00.

  • two one-hour sessions are included in the SOAR Guaranteed Program


Schedule An Individual Session Online




Note: Times Listed Are Eastern Time (same as New York)






 


 




 





 



 







View Article  DEALING WITH FLYING










Chat Wednesday 9 PM - 11 PM Eastern Time

 




Free Group Phone Counseling With Capt Tom Wednesday 10 PM - 11 PM Eastern Time




PLEASE NOTE NEW GROUP PHONE NUMBER 


  • dial (805) 309-2350



  • when asked, enter the conference ID 9352101 followed by the # sign





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Letting The Amygdala Do It 


Recently, I've been writing here about how many routine tasks, such as driving a car, can be carried out on mental autopilot in the subcortex of the brain. So long as everything is routine, the mental autopilot can do the job. But it can't make decisions. If something non-routine happens, the cortex has to take over. How is this done? The amygdala, located right behind the eyes, monitors everything going on around you. It separates everything into "routine" or "non-routine". If everything is routine, the amygdala does nothing. But if something non-routine happens, it releases a shot of stress hormones. The hormones shut down the autopilot in the subcortex, and activate high level thinking (called executive function) in the cortex. Executive function comes up with a plan, and upon committing to the plan, signals the amygdala that stress hormones are no longer needed.


It is commitment to action (or inaction) that signals the amygdala to "chill out". That works fine in a car, where you have control, but as a passenger in a plane, it is hard to answer every non-routine noise or movement of the plane with commitment. After all, the only commitment that can be made is to do nothing. That isn't easy.


But this morning in bed, after reading the paper and looking online to see what was happening, my mind was still stirred up when I decide to take a break, and close my eyes. My mind was so busy that my eyes were shifting around due to various thoughts. The edge of a headache was starting. I realized it might be due to being so mentally busy, so I decided to just focus on no thoughts at all for a few moments. As my mind quieted down, I realized I didn't need to be so mentally busy. I didn't need to be on alert. I didn't need to look out for trouble. It is so easy to think that, to be secure, we have to be hypervigilant.


I realized that didn't make sense. After all, the amygdala is always on alert. The amygdala will draw my attention to anything that is non-routine. In fact, if I stayed focused on things to be on the lookout about, that could be counterproductive. That focus could get in the way of noticing a signal from the amygdala, just as accidents happen when a person who is texting while driving does not notice the stress hormone signal from the amygdala to pay attention to a threat ahead. In other words, we are at our safest when, instead of searching out dangers, we wait to hear from the part of the brain that is designed to let us know when anything might need our attention.


So, I suggest you try what I tried this morning. Just notice you can lie in bed with eyes closed and think of nothing for a minute or two. And notice you are just as safe; the amygdala is on duty and will let you know about anything you need to know about. 


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Air France Accuses Airbus Of Ignoring Pilot Tube Problems

 




Though the media played the May Airbus A330 accident for all it was worth, claiming the plane was flying through a dangerous area of storms, nothing is farther from the truth. Other planes flew through the same area minutes ahead and minutes behind Air France and reported no unusual weather. 


The accident appears to have resulted from a problem that had been noted many times. But until the accident, the problem was not given much attention by Airbus. Even after the accident, Airbus failed to take action until the Air France pilots union said they would not fly the plane unless pitot tubes manufactured by Goodrich was installed on the A330.


Air France has now submitted a report to accident investigators that in 2009, Air France submitted information on fifteen incidents involving the Thales pitot tube in the ten months leading up to the accident. Air France claims Airbus and Thales was left them "without recommendations or long-term solutions for settling this problem".

 

See article at this link. The article also says Air France, knowing about the problem, could have replaced the faulty pitot tubes manufactured by Thales with pilot tubes made by Goodrich - which operate properly - without advice by Airbus.


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"I Can't Get Through This . . . " 


In response to a post on the message board saying "I can't get through this . . . a SOAR client posted the following:

 

I just wanted to post to you as well. I hadn't flown in 17 years. I was
convinced the plane was going to crash if I stepped on it. My son won an
opportunity to be president of Nickelodeon for the day, so we needed to
go to NY and the train would have added 2 days to the trip (and to my
husband's taking off for vacation time). So, I researched and ended up
buying the full course. 


Oct 20th, I boarded a 757 for the first time - I
got to meet both pilots, go to the cockpit, the flight crew checked on
me - not to mention the phone calls with capt tom in the days leading up
to the flight. Guess what, I flew! It was a very turbulent flight, but I
kept chanting J-E-L-L-O and we landed in LaGuardia fine. 


Then, on Oct
24th, I flew back. Not a bump in the sky. Was I completely relaxed, well
no. But, did I fly? Yes and that is something I said I would never do.
Air travel is as about as safe as travel gets. And Capt Tom understands
both the mechanics and functionality of the plane as well as the
psychology of why we feel like this. Please don't hesitate getting the
program and calling him. It has definitely opened up a door for my
family. Good luck and take lots of pictures so we can all be jealous of
your trip when you get back!
 


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Dealing With "What If"

 

(Regarding the New York SOARFest) I was amazed at how everyone who attended really connected with one another almost immediately.  Our individual struggle to conquer the anxiety beast provides us with an enormous sense of compassion and empathy which was very evident.  Hearing everyone's stories was wonderful and made me realize that SOAR is not just a factory for cranking out fliers - it's about helping everyone at a very personal, very deep level.  And of course, as your message board reflects, it really works.


 


As you may remember, we flew up for the occasion (that was kind of the point, right?).  It was the first time I had flown in 6 years.  The hours before the first flight were the worst.  Huge anticipatory anxiety and I slept very little.  But I knew what the feelings were, that they didn't mean anything, and that I just needed to stay with them and notice them (not react or most importantly try to "think" my way past them).  Very similar to 5-4-3-2-1 but it's just staying there and noticing them.  And amazingly enough, they would just shrink away.  Of course they would try again and again but I would just stay with them again and again.


 


The day we flew was rather windy and there was some turbulence at both ends.  I discussed this while talking to the pilots in the cockpit.  Being up there was great.  It helped so much because it humanized everything.  Hearing them reassure me that it's no big deal, totally safe, etc was wonderful.  In fact they were very supportive and congratulated me on facing my fears which was also very positive.


 


Once into the flight of course the strengthening exercises kicked in (yes I had done them over and over and over).  I was truly calm and for the first time I experienced what "was" happening and it was beautiful.  The simple act of holding a water bottle in my hand and being able to "see" how little the plane was moving in the turbulence was almost a miracle.  That accompanied by the jello image and strengthening exercises and I felt truly safe in a plane (in turbulence) for the first time ever.  I was thrilled after landing that I had really done it.


 


But perhaps the most important moment of the trip for me happened the next day after the dinner.  It was a beautiful sunny day and we were in Central Park.  Our return flight was later that afternoon.  I had some anticipatory anxiety but not much really.  And then it happened - I am in a beautiful park on a beautiful day and I think "yes, but what if there's a huge thunderstorm next time?  Or the winds are 80 MPH over the mountains?"  And I thought "AH HA!  There it is!"  I could see the beast so clearly there in front of me.  It was trying to take hold of me again. It was so clear because I had "just" done it yesterday and it was totally fine.  The external reality was fine.  So this internal struggle was laid bare in front of me.  And for all the work I have done I knew that it was a trap - the fake movie in my head.  So instead of watching it I said "I hear you, but dude, I just did it and the wind was 45 MPH and it was TOTALLY FINE."  There was no response.  The return flight was also an excellent experience.  In fact the captain was almost jumping out of his seat with enthusiasm that I was facing my fear of my own accord.  :o)


 


So SOAR has helped me deal with the reality of flight and it works perfectly.  I am still working on the other part but without SOAR I don't believe that the battlefield would be laid out so clearly for me.  And I wouldn't have such a good understanding of why I struggle with anxiety.  The tools that I have learned through the course are truly invaluable for battling the beast.


 


As I said before, thank you so much!  You have no idea how important your work is.  It is doing much more than helping people get on airplanes - it is helping them learn to really live.


 


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