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Is It Safe To Feel Safe?
Why do we expect the worst? Freud suggested we expect the worst as a way of preventing it from happening. He said the problem with trauma is, that the first time we have one, we never had one before. It comes as if 'out of the blue'. Being a complete surprise, it crushes us.
Why do we expect the worst? Freud suggested we expect the worst as a way of preventing it from happening. He said the problem with trauma is, that the first time we have one, we never had one before. It comes as if 'out of the blue'. Being a complete surprise, it crushes us.
To avoid feeling crushed like that again, we brace ourselves; we expect awful things. But being braced isn't enough; we want to prevent disaster. So we consider cause and effect. What was happening just before the trauma hit. Maybe that caused the trauma.
Well, what was going on was we were happy, feeling secure, and expecting nothing to go wrong. Maybe being happy, feeling secure, and expecting nothing to go wrong is what caused the trauma. That's another reason for being hypervigilant.
Then, if we stay hypervigilant and no new trauma hits, we easily could get the idea that being unhappy, feeling insecure, and expecting things to go wrong is the key to safety.
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Rating Airline Food
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My First Flying In Five Years
Dear Capt. Tom,
I had to let you know that I made it through all four of my flights this weekend-- my first time flying in five years!! I met the captain on my first flight out of Boston, and I couldn't believe how relaxed he was. He was more than happy to show me some of the instruments in the cockpit, and answer my questions. In fact, he probably didn't even believe that I have a fear of flying -- I can be pretty good at hiding my fears. Nevertheless, he immediately put me at ease.
The jello analogy also really helped me through some light turbulence. On my fourth and final flight, the seat belt light was on for almost all of our three hour flight -- and it really didn't bother me. I played solitaire on my iPod, and just relaxed. I can't even believe that I can say that now. I RELAXED on an airplane going through turbulence!
Today, my husband and I started planning a cross country trip this summer. It's something we've talked about doing for almost four years, but never did, because it includes a flight from Boston to California. I know I'll be a little nervous before the flight, but man, I can't wait to see California!
Thank you, thank you, thank you!!! I really can't thank you enough. My dad is a retired airplane mechanic and ground support supervisor. He could tell me all about how the safety systems work, how lift works; everything about how airplanes fly. My therapist who helps me with anxiety could tell me all about anticipatory anxiety, panic attacks, calming exercises, and ways to visualize the flight going well. Despite all of this, your SOAR program was what got me back on a plane - and confident enough to know that I can continue to fly with less fear than I ever thought possible.
Thanks once again for your help.
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SOAR Will Work For You Too
SOAR was established in 1982 because no programs existed that could
help people with moderate to severe difficulties. Even today, no other
program offers help that is effective except for mild difficulties. No
matter how difficult flying is for you, we can help.
- Call me at 877 332-7359 between 10 AM and 6 PM Eastern time or
- Set up a time online at http://soar.genbook.com
- No Charge. No Obligation. Just get the information you want.
Or Enroll Right Now And Get This Over With
You will feel better as soon as you make the decision.
You will feel better as soon as you make the decision.
- Accelerated courses give you the most help possible in the time you have available.
- A twenty-minute private session and unlimited group counseling sessions are included.
- What you pay is 100% transferable to the SOAR Video Course 11 DVDs.
Start viewing on your computer screen in two minutes.
- Get a compact version of the SOAR Course.
- Load it on your laptop, iPod or other media player. More info.
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Unsure Which To Choose
If
you are unsure which is best for you, please call me at 877 332-7359 so
we can talk it over. You will feel better as soon as you decide to act.
We are always here to help. As you go through the program, call or email whenever you have a question or a concern.
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Patrick's Column
This week, Patrick writes about the pilots who overflew their destination and proposed changes in qualifications of new airline pilots. You can find it at this link.
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Call between 11 AM and 6 PM Eastern Time (same time zone as New York)
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You'll reach me easily. The toll-free number rings my cell phone.
- find out how I can help you with flying
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