DOES YOU SPOUSE UNDERSTAND YOUR DIFFICULTY WITH FLYING?

......Hi Tom,  

I have listened to 11/2 discs and just want to share a couple of things that you may find of interest.  

1. My husband, who hasn't any fear when flying is watching with me and he is finding the info. fascinating......he is able to climb into my brain and see what bothers me....he keeps on saying when you mention certain items, "is that what you feel, or think?"   .....and then there is a "big ahhhhhh"......he is gaining an insight into my feelings that he has never been able to grasp.    

2. We were just listening to the section "your own movie' and after you explained it, I paused the tape and asked my husband if he understood .......he said yes...I questioned myself as to why I had missed the point and I think that the very anxiety of this topic  had put me into the B movie mode.....as you were mentioning flying along, then there's a noise , etc. etc. my mind began seeing  what happens to me in that situation and during the explanation , I had in fact gone into my own movie , therefore missing the point you made ....... this has happened several times before when I needed to pause or rewind to hear the end of the point......my mind had simply gone somewhere else.

NOTE: That is why the courses we used to do in person had such limitations; it was really difficult for people to stay with the lecture. But with the tapes - and now the DVDs - you will discover when you go into your “B Movie” and you can stop, rewind, and get the important information.

And, just learning to recognize it when you go into your “B Movie” will help you deal with flight anxiety, because the problem is always about what you are imagining, and imagining it to be real!    

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THIS WEEK’S INSPIRATIONAL EMAIL

Dear Capt. Tom,  

It has been one year since I ordered my SOAR tapes. I was extremely skeptical that I would ever fly again but I was willing to try anything.  

I have just returned from Mexico! It was my first trip ALONE on a plane in 10 years.

It was great and something really special happened- I a met a girl just like me on my first solo flight. She and her husband had commandeered my single seat so they could sit together. He wanted to comfort her because she was so scared. She was shaking, crying and two fisting champagne glasses (on the tarmac).   I was so happy I could share my story. I shared everything I had learned in the course. I realized as I was sharing the Jello analogy that I am not really afraid anymore!! We talked all the way through the 2 and a half hour flight. I am so happy that I could tell my success story. The entire gropup of people around us got into sharing their fears and concerns and I really felt like I could help them too!    

It's like that movie Pay it Forward!!!  So far I have been to Mexico (foreign air travel), Maui (over water), LAX (crowded air space) this year. I finally decided I could do that trip to Australia with my Dad who is almost 70 and been patiently waiting for his little girl to accompany him.  

I just wanted to say thank you this Thanksgiving for giving me (and so many others) our lives back! I was inspired to write this because of Julie and a BIG OLE KISS I saw in red lipstick on the door to the MD 80 who flew us all home form Cabo safely.

Gratitude. That's what I feel when I fly now.

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Capt. Tom Bunn MSW LCSW is both an airline captain and a licensed
therapist. Call (877) 332-7359 or (203) 258-4803

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